It’s hard to force yourself to do something you really don’t care about, or aren’t very good at, or actively dislike, even it’s something you need to do in order to get to where you want to go. You resist the task, avoid it, put it off as long as you can. You fight it. And yet, that task just looms over you, bigger and scarier. It doesn’t go away.

After all, you can’t resist something, or fight something, without focusing your attention on it. And as soon as you do that, you make it seem bigger, harder, scarier than it really its.

Instead of resisting or avoiding whatever it is, try surrendering to it. You’re going to have to do it sooner or later. Why not now?

I challenge you, this week, to tackle one scary task that you’ve been resisting or putting off or avoiding. And I’ll bet you that it won’t be nearly as bad you as fear - and that you’ll feel a hundred times better for having gotten it done.

We sure live in our heads - and make most of our decisions with our heads, too. This week, check in with your gut instead. That little, inner voice won’t steer you wrong.

We all worry, and it’s rarely constructive. Worrying creeps into our thoughts and highjacks them, any time of the day or night. In addition to causing stress and insomnia, it makes it hard to focus, to concentrate on the task at hand, to enjoy the moment.

Since we are going to worry, why not set aside some time for it? Seriously. Take 15 to 20 minutes a day. Call it “thinking time” or “problem solving time” or even be honest and call it “worry time.” And do all your worrying, consciously, then.

And whenever a worry pops up outside your Worry Time, jot it down. Tell yourself firmly that you’ll worry about it at 2:00 PM, or 10:30 AM, or whenever you’ scheduled Worry Time. You’ll be surprised how effective that is.

Besides, by the time Worry Time comes around, those worries won’t have the same urgency. You’ll be able to think about them more clearly. And maybe even find solutions.

Mom’s Day is this coming Sunday. It’s a great opportunity to do something nice for anyone who has helped you, guided you, mentored you - mothered you! - whether or not they’re your real mother.

So this week, drop a line, send a card, write a note, send an email to someone who’s made a difference in your life, and acknowledge them. You’ll both be glad you did.