Archive for April, 2008

Three AM To Do Lists

Wednesday, April 30th, 2008

It was one of those nights last night. You know the kind: You fall asleep immediately but then wake up at 3:00 AM and your To Do list starts dancing in your head. You lie there, thinking of everything that needs to be done; of everything that you need to cram into the day, and the next day, and the next day after. You cram a full week of worry and stress into each minute as  you toss and turn. You’re not really awake enough to get up and do anything, but you can’t sleep, either.

So last night, I tried a new approach. Whenever my thoughts veered off into Worry Worry Land, I started going through all the colors of the rainbow. (Or of the chakras, which ever you prefer.) I would concentrated on “red” until I could actually see red in my mind, then move on up to orange, yellow, green, etc. And it didn’t just distract me, it actually calmed me down and relaxed me.

 How does that work? Well, first of all, it does break up that negative internal dialogue, and gives you something else, something non-stressful but engrossing, to think about. It’s easier than trying to create a tropical beach fantasy because you know what comes next. But the most intriguing reason is that, supposedly, doing this exercise changes your brain waves in much the same way meditation does, inducing a theta pattern (4-7 cycles/sercond) instead of alpha (13-30) or beta (7 - 13).

No matter what the theory, the end result is what counts. I definitely was less stressed and more relaxed. My cat, who likes to sleep stretched out next to me, really appreciated that I wasn’t tossing and turning, disturbing her. And although it took a while, I was able to go back to sleep. About 45 minutes before my alarm went off, of course.

 But I’m not as tired this morning as I usually I am after a night of wrestling my To Do Lists in Worry Worry Land. I definitely have more energy. So it worked, at least somewhat.

Your Capacity to Adapt (Weekly Challengers 4/28/2008)

Monday, April 28th, 2008

Here’s another offering sent from my Australian reader.

A series of unsatisfactory jobs has shown her that she can adapt to change much more than she had thought. You too have a greater capacity to change and adapt than you think. How can you explore that this week? How does the knowledge that you can change and grow (and handle almost anything) expand your horizons?

You Are Both Unique and Similar (Weekly Challengers 4/21/2008)

Monday, April 21st, 2008

A teleclass participant told me that one of the things she valued most about the Non-Linear Time Management for Creatives teleclass was discovering that she was not alone in her right-brained approach to things. Here was my response:

One of the things I’ve learned along the way is that every time I think I have a unique challenge, there are always others who’ve had the same or similar experiences. If I can just find them, well, I can learn a lot from them! We’re simultaneously more like, and more unique, than we think.

So how are you unique? And how are you the same as other people? Which reminds me of one of my favorite bumper stickers: Always remember you are unique, just like everybody else.

Being off, being not-sick

Friday, April 18th, 2008

Remember how I was boasting that I didn’t get terribly sick with my DH’s cold? Well, that’s only partially true. It did sneak up on me, with a vengeance, and knocked me down and out for about 2 days. Those 2 days just happened to be this past Sunday and Monday, and I was feeling so bad that I actually rescheduled all my clients and canceled all my other appointments. I’d seen what the cold has done/is doing to my hubby: it’s been three weeks and he’s still not all the way recovered. I figured I was going to end up getting that sick.

But I didn’t! By Monday afternoon I was starting to feel a bit better and by Tuesday, I was close to back to normal, and definitely better than my hubby is after three weeks. Certainly I would have been able to work. Instead, I have a week off.

So I decided to enjoy it. I gave myself permission to goof off, and goof off I did, at least for a couple of days. I read novels, watched movies, slept in. It felt wonderful for about two and a half days, and then I got antsy. Apparently I can only take so much of unstrutured, unproductive down time.

And I was wondering. Has anyone else had this experience? What is too much down time? What is enough? 

How Do Your Values Impact Others? (Weekly Challengers 4/14/2008)

Monday, April 14th, 2008

A reader from Australia who corresponds with me regularly contributed this idea:

What values did you learn from your parents and grandparents? Which of those do you still honor today, and which have you discarded?

She says her Dad’s parents taught her the importance of sticking with your ethics despite how others behave, and how a simple life well lived (kindness and gentleness constantly displayed) had a strong impact on others.

How do your values impact others?

The mathematics of colds and flu

Wednesday, April 9th, 2008

I may have mentioned that my husband returned home from New Orleans with a vicious cold. For the past two weeks, I’ve been carefully avoiding it; tons of hands-washing, liberal use of Zycam, echinacea and Vitamin C, and even a bit of Airborne. Did I mention daily “doses” of red wine? It contains the largest amount of naturally occurring anti-viral agents of any food or beverage. And it feels good on a raw throat. (By the way, be careful with Airborne; it contains huge amounts of Vitamin A, which can be toxic–very toxic, very fast–to your liver. Don’t use it more than three times a day.)

Unfortunately, my husband persisted in being generous, and I now have a much, much milder version of his infestation. But compared to the cold that knocked him off his feet and, for the first time in the 20 years I’ve been married to him, sent him to bed (he was sleeping something like 20 hours a day–or attempting to), mine has remained in the scratchy throat, mild aches, and sniffles category. (I’m crediting Zycam for that; it really seems to work.) Although I have lost my voice–I taught a telelclass yesterday and strained it–but I sound so much worse than I feel.

However, I’m milking it for all I’m worth, soaking up the sympathy, and using it as an excuse to cancel working out, unessential meetings, and even a social gathering or two. And it’s not because I’m being lazy; honestly, I don’t want to be as generous as my husband and spread germs.

Which brings me to the point of this blog–I know, I know, I’m burying my lead–which is, if you’ve got a cold, for Pete’s sake, STAY HOME! Don’t spread it around. Don’t be “heroic” and show up at work anyway. Trust me, good management would rather cover for you than have to cover for the three to seven others in your office you’re going to infest.

I believe that our “carry on at all costs” attitude ends up costing us much more than it saves us. In fact, studies have shown that people who go to work with a cold aren’t very productive: in fact, the lost productivity from showing up for work sick adds up to about 60% of an employer’s health care costs. It’s cheaper for you to stay home. But even more than that, if everyone with the flu, or a cold, isolated him-or-herself while the plague ran its course, we wouldn’t have epidemics of the stuff. But no, we have to go to work, attend school, ride public transportation, go out to eat, etc. And everyone we come in contact with is exposed to our germs. They catch it, and then they spread it around even more.

When I was working on my Ph.D. in Microbiology (I really do know about this stuff!), we read a fascinating case study of just how quickly a disease spreads. Let’s do the math. If one person has a cold, and spreads it just to three people in one day then each of those three people spread it to three more people each the next day, (nine ill) and each of those nine spread it to three more people the next day (27 ill), and so on, in just one week, that first person will have indirectly infected over 6,500 people; in two weeks, nearly a million and a half. Just think of all the suffering, lost wages, etc. that could have been avoided if that one person had just stayed home!

Before the advent of antibiotics, people–entire families–with certain diseases would be quarantined until they were determined to be no longer contagious. (You may remember that scene from Little Women where Amy was sent to stay with Aunt Josephine because Beth had scarlet fever. A wise move, although Jo and Meg were also at risk; Streptococcal infection is not something we develop long-lasting immunity to.) And quarantine is one of the methods being considered to deal with another major influenza epidemic, like the one that killed nearly 50,000,000 (yes, fifty million, folks) in 1918. But why wait until the government has to step in? (Then you know that it will be heavy-handed, inefficient, inappropriate and too late.) Why don’t we start, right now, advocating that sick people STAY HOME and not infest the rest of us?

We could begin in the office place–managers, send those sickies home before you and the rest of the staff get sick too. And in schools. Sorry parents, I know how a sick kid messes up your schedule, but that’s where most diseases spread. How many times has your child brought you home the gift of a cold?

Got a sniffle? STAY HOME.  (Although we do need to be able to distinguish between infections and allergies. WebMD has a good guide: http://www.webmd.com/cold-and-flu/cold-guide/common-cold-too-sick-to-work)

Here’s an interesting statistic for you: there are more than twice the number of deaths per year from cold and flu (over 36,000) than there are from driving drunk (17,941 in 2006). And yet we have laws in place to stop the latter.

It’s time that we all stepped up, and when we get sick, we quarantine ourselves. A more liberal sick-day policy in the workplace (that include going home to care for your sick child sent home from school–or better yet, keeping your child home from school in the first place) would end up paying for itself. Annually, over fifteen million work days and twenty two million school days a year are lost to colds and flu; if people would simply stay home when they start to feel sick, we could cut that by 80 to 90%. (My guestimate, not a real number.)

I understand that more people decide whether to go to work or stay home based on the health of their bank accounts, not on their own health. After all, in some segments of the work force, no paid sick days are offered at all, and people may even be fired for being absent for too many days in a row. (That actually happened to me, once, and in a hospital, no less. You’d think a medical facility, of all places, should know better.) So change needs to happen from the top down, and preferably without the government getting involved. Unfortunately, I don’t know how to make that happen.

But for now, if you’re getting sick or feeling sick, STAY HOME! Everyone will thank you. And let me know–I’ll send you some chocolate.

Look Beyond the Imperfections (Weekly Challengers 4/7/2008)

Monday, April 7th, 2008

This month I’m going to feature Weekly Challengers that have been sent in (or inspired by) my readers. Thank you, everyone, for your contributions - and your readership!

A teleclass participant sent me this great quote last week: Being happy doesn’t mean everything’s perfect. It means you’ve decided to see beyond the imperfections.

So this week, I challenge you to look beyond the imperfections - in your life, your friends, your family, your job, and see what happiness you can discover there.