You never know what you’re going to bring home as a souvenir; on this trip, DH brought home a case of strep throat (fortunately, he didn’t get really sick until after we were home), followed by a common but unpleasant cold. And he was about as sick with strep as I’ve ever seen him.

It’s amazing how having him sick is so disruptive. It’s not that he’s a difficult patient; he went to bed at noon one day and didn’t get up until the next morning. He didn’t complain, or at least not much, and he did his best to make sure I don’t catch whatever it is. And he tried to stay out of my way and not mess up my routine. With modern antibiotics, he recovered (from the strep, at least) very quickly. So I don’t know why it should be so disconcerting and discombobulating to have him sick.

Maybe it’s his low energy state. Usually I can count on him to be getting stuff done all the time; I often have to coax him to sit down and watch TV or read with me. But this week, he’s hitting the recliner before I am. Maybe it’s that I’m more worried about him than I’m letting on to myself.

I think we’ve been together for so long that our sub-conscious rhythms and energies are usually in synch, and to have him sick throws them off. I felt like half of me was not quite there; not quite, well, right. I guess he’s more a part of me than I usually realize. Not that I take him completely for granted, but well, maybe I do more than I know.

It’s something to think about–how he and I overlap and become us, and where the boundaries between individuality and couple-dom meet. We’re not co-dependent; at least not disfunctionally so. But we are more together than the sum of our parts.

I did it!

It was great. Fantastic. A real high. And would you believe this: nothing went wrong.

The food was the main topic of conversation (in a good way), and nothing burned, spilled, or broke. My plating was awesome, if I do say so myself, and received rave reviews. In fact, at the end of the evening when we were toasting the happy couple, I was given full credit for the food, and–are you ready for this–received a standing ovation! Of course,
everyone was already on their feet for the toast, but still, applause is wonderful.

The best compliment of all came when the hostess of  the party asked me if I’d be willing to cater for her again. And she’d pay me!

A new career? No. I don’t want to do this full time–I don’t want to deal with nasty, picky, fussy clients. I don’t want to be treated as “The help.” (One guest did that at this party, but she was instantly corrected. I was a “Co-hostess”–although I was given a nametag that said “Chef” on it. (I’m not a chef, but it was fun pretending.) I don’t want to have to build a professional catering kitchen that’s up to Colorado’s standards for a commercial kitchen. But I will do it again, once in a while, for friends that I know and like.

It’s hard work, but very satisfying, very creative, and very delicious. I’m so glad I tried something new, challenging and scary. It was really worth sticking my neck out for.

Oh, by the way, Michelle’s fiance, Travis, seems to be a really nice, considerate, sweet guy. And the two of them together are so over-their-heads in love it’s almost disgusting. Well, not really. But after 20 years of marriage, our love has settled down into something comfortable, like a favorite old, soft sweater. It’s reliable. It’s wonderful. But it just doesn’t have that all-consuming (and exhausting) emotional intensity any more. I do miss it on occasion. But all in all, I think I’d rather have what we have now.

What “rules” have you made up that you are following unconsciously? For example, do you have an unconscious rule that no matter what, you MUST make your bed every morning? Or that you MUST clean your plate? There’s nothing wrong with these rules; we need habits to make our life less complicated, but sometimes we do things for no other reason than that’s the way we’ve always done them, and that way no longer is serving us. This week, notice some of your unconscious rules, and deliberately break a couple of them.

OK, so everything isn’t running as smoothly as it might, but I’m still on top of it. The spinach empanadillas came out, well, let’s just say I won’t serve them, so I had to come up with another vegetarian option at the last minute. Which, of course, meant a fast run to the grocery store. (New offering: curried pinwheels.) I’d planned on having everything already on cookie sheets so I could just slide them into the oven at Rosemary’s; well, there’s no place to store all those cookie sheets, so I’ll have to transport them in Zipper bags. 

I think I have garnishes and trays and presentation ideas for everything. I think I have enough serving utensils. I think I have a brain left. I think.

If you’ve been reading this blog regularly, you know that I’m a real foodie. I love to cook (and eat) as much as I love to coach. So when a friend of mine, Michelle, announced she was getting married, I offered to cook for the engagement party, being held at another woman’s (Rosemary) house.

Although I’ve hosted my own parties, this is the first time I’ve designed a menu to other people’s specifications, and then prepared food in my own kitchen to serve elsewhere.  I think I’ve spent nearly as much time organizing the gig as I have cooking. Fortunately, I enjoy both, although the details have given me several sleepless (or almost sleepless) nights. But more about those later.

Anyway, I want to serve food that will make people go “Wow!” I want to impress, to amaze, to inspire. And I’m barely a talented amateur. I also don’t want to be up until wee sma’s cooking the night before.

So I’ve planned a menu of items that can be made ahead of time–some of them as many as five weeks ahead of time. I’m serving chorizo puffs (make ahead and freeze) spinach empanadillas (make ahead and freeze), ham and gruyere three cheese foccacia (make ahead and freeze), my famous tarragon shrimp (make 4 days ahead and marinate), a Stilton-pecan torte (make 2 days ahead; i.e. today) and Oriental meatballs (make ahead and freeze).  I’ve also made both cheddar and brie crackers (they’re really easy!), three kinds of flavored nuts, and some other munchies, all of which are freezable. (The biggest problem I have now is that I’m running out of freezer space.) I’m doing a veggie tray with two dips, but I’m getting creative–a blue cheese-and-pecan dip (the hostess loves blue cheese) and a raspberry dip, and non-standard veggies. No broccoli or cauliflower on this tray. That, unfortunately, will have to be done tomorrow. But that’s about the only last minute thing. I think.

 It sounds like a lot of work, and I suppose it is, but I absolutely love it. There’s something almost Zen-like about cooking, in that I focus completely on what I am doing. I get completely into this zone with no stress and no worries–and yet, it’s creative at the same time. The “zone” is something like I get into when I’m playing a computer game, only I feel productive and satisfied at the end of it all. Plus I’ve spread it out over five weeks, so I never over-burdened myself with too much at one time.

The only problem now is this nagging sense that I’ve forgotten something. I guess I’ll figure out what that is soon enough. As long as it’s before the party!

So often we feel we need to save our celebrations for big events: birthdays, anniversaries, national holidays. But that’s rather limiting. There are so many other things to celebrate every day. Small things, but things that make the difference between having a joyful life and a miserable one.

For example, today I’m celebrating the fact that my latest bad hair cut has almost grown out, that the squirrels are eating from the squirrel feeder and leaving the bird feeders alone, and that my coffee is hot and delicious and just the way I like it.

So what are you celebrating? My challenge to you this week is to find some little thing to celebrate - every single day. And watch how much brighter your life becomes.

Last night we took a trek across the Ponchartrain causeway (over 23 miles of bridge) to En Provence, the last of our John Besh restaurant experiences. And we certainly left the best for last.

En Provence is more than a little out-of-the-way, but it’s certainly worth the trip. It’s a little restaurant off in the boonies in Lacombe, LA, with the look and feel of a rustic French farmhouse. Besh is raising his own pigs and chickens in the back, in addition to raised gardens that provide herbs and veggies for the kitchen.

There’s quite a story behind this restaurant, but I’ll leave it for others to tell: http://www.simonesez.com/laprovence_general.shtml. However I will tell you about eating there. In fact, I can sum the experience up in one word: fantastic.

It didn’t hurt that the evening started out with complimentary glasses of champagne, to celebrate our 20th anniversary. And it only got better from there.

Besh has kept many of the staff that were at the restaurant before he bought it in 2007, including Joyce, who has been the “mother” of the restaurant for 20-some years. She’s not a hostess in the traditional, show-you-to-your-seat way; in fact, there are other people who do that, but she is the hostess in the welcoming, friendly sense. The night we were there, she visited with every table, and made us, at least feel as though we were her personal guests in her home. She even wrote us a poem–which I intend to frame–celebrating our anniversary.

The food, service, and atmosphere has everything that was lacking at Restaurant August and Luke. It is warm, friendly, and welcoming. You feel as though everyone is really glad that you, personally, are there, and that you, personally, matter. The food was excellent; Besh has a way with salads, but the blue cheese-buttermilk dressing here was, well, to die for. I had a trio of “Wild game” including boar, venison, and house-made pheasant sausage, and I couldn’t decide which of the three I liked better, although the venison stew may have edged out the others by a hair. DH had the same thing, so I wasn’t able to compare my dinner to his. I had a cheese plate for dessert; although not something that showcases anyone’s art, it was delicious and exactly what I wanted.

And it doesn’t hurt that the prices are about half of what they are in the city.

In fact, En Provence comes pretty darn close to Commander’s Palace on my list of great restaurant experiences. Now if it can just keep up to this standard for 40 years, as CP has done, I may have a tie.

Wow. Last night, we ate at Commander’s Palace–and it’s as good as ever. The food was fantastic, the service attentive but not obnoxious, the remodeled interior delightful. They were able to get my husband’s steak cooked the way he liked it; my fish was so flaky and tender that I couldn’t stop eating it even after I was stuffed. It was sweet and wonderful and romantic, and we were the second to last people to leave. Yet we never felt rushed; our servers (Commander’s Palace uses a team approach and it works) made us feel as though we could have spent the night there.

My first experience with CP was way back in 1974, the year the Brennans took the restaurant over from the Morans. My soon-to-be husband (my ex, now) and I took our $164.00 tax refund and used it for a week’s vacation in New Orleans. Even back then, $164.00 didn’t go far in that city. We camped in a state park north of Lake Ponchartrain, ate cheaply, and pinched pennies.

But one night, we decided to splurge, and made a reservation (from a pay phone) at CP. We put on our best duds, and showed up at the restaurant, inappropriately dressed, and obviously young and out-of-place. It would have been totally legitimate for them to seat us at some back table near the kitchen. And we wouldn’t have known that were were being treated shabbily.

But instead they gave us one of their best tables. It was in the garden, right by a fountain that had a big turtle swimming in it, and they treated us like royality. I even remember what I ate: turtle soup, flounder stuffed with crabmeat, and and dessert–Baked Alaska, which was flambed at the table by our server. I remember her, too–a middle-aged lady who ladled the flaming liquor across the table cloth in a fantastic display of showmanship. We shared a bottle of wine, and then, with trepidation, asked for the bill.

It came to $25.00. That’s all, and even back then, that was way, way too little, and we recognized it, even in our naievety. (Although that was a huge chunk of our entire budget.) When we asked about it, the manager said it was their way of welcoming us to New Orleans–and inviting us to come back.

From that moment on, CP has held a warm place in my heart, and I’ve made it a point to eat there every time I visit New Orleans. It’s always been great, no matter the circumstances. I’ve never had a bad meal or a bad time there. And that’s something to say about a restaurant over a span of 30 years. Chefs (including Paul Prudhomme and Emeril Lagasse) have come and gone, the service staff have obviously turned over several times (our servers this trip weren’t even born back in 1974), but the restaurant remains a bastion of great food and service. I have to attribute that to Ella Brennan, who has ruled the place for as long as I’ve been going there. And I learned that she lives in a house right behind the restaurant.

So forgive me, John Besh, but you’ve got a ways to go to match up to Commander’s Palace!

Yup, that’s where DH took me as a surprise. Most of my friends and clients guessed; I thought it might be but didn’t want to know for sure. But I’m here and I’m loving it.

I’ve always had a great relationship with this city; I’ve been coming here for 40 (gasp! has it been that long?) years now. Not regularly, but once in a while. I’ve been here as a kid with my family, with my first husband (and we were broke!), with my daughter to celebrate her 21st birthday, on business trips, with friends, even by myself. I’ve always had a great time here. But this is my first post-Katrina trip–and the city has changed.

How could it not? People are frustrated by how slowly recovery is happening. There are entire areas of the city that are still being cleaned up; large sections of it are nothing but debris and old concrete slabs where houses used to be. And that’s progress. People are living in trailers in their driveways. The population is down by 40%, and 1 out of every 25 people is homeless.

New Orleans is no longer “The city that care forgot.”

Yet, while there is a sense of frustration and impatience in the city, it’s still a great town. There’s history and culture and character and soul in New Orleans that simply doesn’t exist any place else. New Orleans is New Orleans, and you can’t mistake it for any other city.

There’s still cafe au lait and beignets at the Cafe du Monde–and it’s still almost impossible to get a seat there. There’s still buskers playing jazz on the street corners. Bourbon Street is still it’s slightly sleezy self, and there are still art galleries and antique stores on Royal. And then there’s the food.

The food is why we are  here. DH has managed to get reservations at three of the four restaurants owned by John Besh, a celebrity chef, and one of my favorites. We ate/are eating at Restaurant August on Monday, Luke (for lunch) today and En Provance on Wednesday. We’re skipping Besh Steak at Harrah’s Casino in favor of one of my all time favorite restaurants ever, Commander’s Palace, which is where we’re going tonight.

So far, I’m not overly impressed with August or Luke. The food at August was so-so for the price, and the service spotty. Our server seemed to be too busy to keep on top of our table. They were unable to cook my husband’s steak to his specifications, and my entree (veal stuffed with shrimp) was not well balanced. I felt the shrimp overwhelmed the sweetness of the veal, not to mention the shrimp had not been well cleaned and were gritty. (Yes, I know about veal; I very rarely eat it–as in twice ever in my life. So don’t get on my case.) However the salads were fantastic.

Luke is more of a luncheon/bistro place than the upscale dining experience Besh is going for at August. (Luke actually has two dots about the “u” in the name, but I don’t have that option in WordPress.) The food there was better, at least for what the restaurant was trying to be, but the service was perfunctory. Adequate, but perfunctory.

It will be interesting to see how Commander’s Palace stacks up. I’ve eaten there five previous occasions, and every one of them has been fantastic. It was closed for a long time after Katrina; I wonder what it’s like now. I’ll let you know!

Happy St. Patrick’s Day – and more importantly…

This Wednesday is my 20th wedding anniversary.

Twentieth. I must confess, there were days (weeks, months) when I doubted we’d make it this far. We’ve had our ups and downs, our good times and our bad times. And yet, here we are looking back over twenty years.

It’s interesting. The roughest times in our marriage have not been the external upheavals. When things are challenging, we pull together. It’s when things are going along just fine - the “boring” stretches - that things start to get, well, uneasy. I think it’s because we become aware of, and perhaps even focused on, the little annoyances. The pesky details. The lack of things rather than the fullness of them.

So this week, in celebration of my anniversary, notice what you’re focused on in your relationships and in your life. Are they the big, important things (he’s loving, respectful, loyal, a hard worker…) or the pesky details (I wish he’d get rid of that shirt!)?

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